first two weeks in an assisted living facility, bipolar relative in a retirement community

So, here we go.  Although I work a full day, everyday, my mother has the time to send me 23 text messages and only one phone call during my work day.  She has been handling the change well from an apartment to this great assisted facility.  My fear, as usual, is that she is going to lash out at everyone soon and start demanding more attention from family members.  And, since she has absolutely no friends and no relatives will deal with here, I am her only choice.  Her own brother doesn't want to ever talk with her again, and her sister is done with her.  

So, let's start the new day, July 13, 2020:

Thank you! I will call now. I just updated Dr Iqbal’ s office with new CVS Fax #. For some reason I cannot get through to Dr Gonzales office You have my med records for her I will do GOOGLE check soon Now have GOOGLE-fixed it. Will call ATT first. When done w calls will go down WF desk for expanded TV pkg & give them TY note & TY art. Hope your Monday is smooth-Tom Thumb per Mgr no longer delivers groceries-only pick up & go. I can ask desk for grocery delivers here. Soon I will have you out of going Dr appts CVS pickups & hopefully groceries too! I am puzzled by missing art books, hammer & other items-seems missing box tho just go forward & replace as needed. Only 3 delivery pigs left all paid-tray table winter duvet & B$N art books

Have a great day👍✅💜

ATT equipment must be returned to any local UPS or FEDEX location with my account number. They will key it into their database & note return of equipment.

Re: missing art books etc-do you have any boxes at your place? Maybe box got included with the records boxes. I will deal either way tho 3 art books started & wanted to finish. All 3 can be found at Hobby Lobby probably on-line when/if. Last call to Primary Care Dr Gonzalez First will verify phone # must be input error in my cell phone✅👍

My dilemma now cannot find Discount Power acct # PW or phone # all paper clipped together thought took off ATT paperwork & did put in drawer in kitchen-that’s the missing box. Will work on that later-see get info from SL folio. Got focus on WF now-cleaner comes today plus lunch plus need sign up in log for bingo & see front desk about expanded TV pkg I believe sent prior text Power bill $102 for June plus thru cut off date July. Will go back thru here to see if made it to WF🤪

Thank You! I needed that & meant what wrote-we are all dealing with lesser choices & trying make best of it. I left voice message for SL that power cut as of today my # if questions & your # to set appointment to turn in keys fobs & tags👍✅

I did not Bingo but came close so I got $20 thousand in bingo bucks which sadly will not pay bills tho good for Bingo auction

Met Lady plays Grand piano. She donated keyboard to 2nd floor musicians & has piano in she & her husband’s apartment. Mostly they like play gospel music. She advised I buy my own bingo cards- need 2 to compete-at $2.50 each in Corner Store-cash only-plus tiny Twix & full on Diet Dr Pepper- I can according to Ed rack up WF bucks by also playing 42 Mexican Train BlackJack & Farkle-of course I could also gamble away what’s left of my meager $ Ha ha

Stoneleigh called-left no message while out

Will return call to SL now✅

I am forwarding an email SL says can only send to me as the one on lease-no cc to you.

Still asking out all keys fobs tags thru drop box See email

Essentially Covid 19 reason for not doing appointment as you figured out. I will cc my reply to You-what address do I provide. Here?

Ironic here 15 at Bingo many w no mask sitting some small tables The person is actually my Bingo Tutor Married couples here like to socialize w other married couples which OK they’re honest about it

Re SL I planned to reply AFTER you drop off keys etc as requested My one question want a forwarding or new address I am uncertain what do if send repeated requests I do NOT & WILL NOT use your address So guessing use WF address? Thank you

Oh Forgot Liz & Tim plan pickup the lamp & art this coming weekend 7-18 or 7-19

Will that inconvenience You? Also Thu 4-6 is enough No movie etc on Fri unless Know You are going 2nd last Dr appt last Dr Gonzales late August

Actually may need break to great special effects HGTV my treasured Grands & You & Bob Just mellow evening w agreement that my beloved past tense apartment, the obvious limitations here WF that cannot be changed like 90s TV no HGTV & many spent on smart tv plus more significantly people here socially spiritually (gospel sing a Kong’s) & views beliefs are not in line w mine-so far no Mary here. She got her card sent precious gif & nice thank you. No one tops Mary & I am weary of moving & starting over w new everything/one. I am seriously listing toward s funky depression from which I have NOT had in 45 years. It hurts beyond words & I need change scenery & walk away for awhile-there are truly depressing incidents here which hard working staff w most having 2nd job CANNOT FIX-not enough $ or authority. Lisa works really hard & Jennifer & Terri & Mike & Barbara & listen time a lot of really petty complaints-why I did TY note & TY card Rarely hear genuine appreciation for knocking themselves out what can fix & do! Atmosphere here can be quite negative & can rub off-people NOT happy regardless- win or no win-I need get away at times- even to Dr & I’ve had enough Appts

No Goodbyes to SL either Really nice to me re phone call Their job isn’t nice!

Sleep well 🤗😴Take breaks when U can cause I’m no prize either 💜🌻💜🌷💜

Also-please laugh! I refilled soap dispensers in kitchen & bathroom plus need new rolls of paper towels TP soon! All went well then regretted returning TP dispenser from Target My ginger still sore to pain & TP kizmo will NOT budge off so put new in!

Time take break-💜🌷💜🌻💜💚💐💚💐🤗🥰

Good Morning-Positive News Report: Tijuana put my cell # in their resident computer contacts, verified You are my Care Giver & ICE, took my Discount Power bill & card to Bro sent Snyder address cause that’s his mailing address. I doubled checked & I am signed up for shuttle for Dr Chauhan next Tues 10 & cardio doc too

I also verified I can do Telehealth for Dr Dorcus after Friday & I can-fingers crosses.

Tijuana also gave me price list do premium channel & DVR pkg w Retirement TV Prices maybe more now old price sheet It’s all on hold now & it does involve a satellite dish so I will think about it & show you price sheet. I must be downstairs at 11:30 today per Mike for noon appt w Dr Chauhan. He actually came to my apt to tell me cause did not have my cell # in their computer yet-did it this am-Poor Mike had see an old lady in her robe & jammies. Before opened the door I told him NOT to faint & be brave ha ha

Anyway covers all news from here Holding steady on budget tho you need transfer $240 to your account cause I do not think you repaid yourself for $100 tip on move!

I will miss lunch & iron tabs re dr appt so did not order lunch doing Glucerna & taking iron tabs early!

Stay safe & be careful around those do not wear masks or clean ones like here or gloves when should. I worry for you!

Guys not as careful as we are

Love 💕 U💜💐💜🌻💜🍒👍💚

seems like my mother has given me a career job.  I am not her care giver..I am her daughter.

Just wanted You to know what & who I appreciate about The WF- 1 my tiny Whoville apt 302 is beautiful calm & sunny all thanks to You & Bob 2 Hard working staff are really nice kind and work really hard to make residents living here happy (even with 2 jobs!)

3 WF is attractive inside & out many people who live here & visit here say so (Thanks for finding The WF) 4 The limited activities & dining in dining room once week helps make less sense quarantine & get us together 5 Even w limited shuttle service I appreciate rides to/from Drs Appts & take small book read 6 Meals well planned & I still need balance healthy choices with meals appeal to all-like turkey bacon today ok, saved my Cheerios for snack & OJ for iron tabs & ate my own Bear Naked granola w nuts milk & their banana & saved small strawberry yogurt for snack later

I also REALLY appreciate & am so thankful for Your Surprise Gifts like unsalted pistachios unsalted roasted Pepitas ALL Soft Surroundings beautiful clothes & having Mr Kim tailor those plus Bob Art Mat & throw & generously inviting me for Friday eve visit so I can hug & pat my Grands (IF Frankie will show up ha ha) taking care & taking initiative w $, banking, return items & ATT boxes, all errands & Drs Appts & contacts on my behalf plus your understanding that I at times of day & for some days yet not yet consistently level so I am my kind generous strong positive let’s make strawberry 🍓 lemonade from sour lemons 🍋 to I am obviously memory blocked anxious & “fish out of water” going SL which I loved for many reasons-Yes too many turnovers from Benny to Rick to nice Hispanic couple to now Bonnie & me then Christopher

We attach ourselves & then person gone like me. That kind of unsteady living plus too much visual & audio stimulation like way WF gets too noisy & busy at times leaves me distressed & not nice like usual me. I need find safe havens within noisy disruptive WF depending on time day-Art Corner & Bingo too much uproar at times I need find Oreo space avoid 1 floor Activity Room & limit myself to one Bingo & one Farkle day a week. I need a reliable routine right now like 4-6 on Thursdays! Drs appts change ZOOM totally chaotic & WF nice calm quiet break until I tried too hard find fit 4 me & buddy for dining & art Will just need hold onto patience show You positivity you deserve & respect for your hard efforts to help me I am slowing down then swings back & PTSD still present Honestly I still fear him & have moved several times & lifed off grid due those fears. Wise or not I sent Bro nice patriotic card again this time Bday card way late ha ha cause sent Christmas card & 3 other on time cards for Veteran’s Day & Bday &.....I out WF address label on it to prove his encounter w guy whether he initiated or not or it was coincidental NO RISK TO ME NOW OR...

I am trying Thank you Both for hanging in there💐💚💐💚💐